Being in your 20s is an exciting and challenging time. So many changes are happening all at once and sometimes it feels impossible to do everything that is expected of you. Not only are you adjusting to living on your own, navigating different careers, and disovering what you’re passionate about, you are also still figuring out who you are.
Taylor Swift got it right in her song “22” when she says, “We’re happy, free, confused, and lonely at the same time.” Does it get any more accurate than that?! Sometimes it feels like I’m on an emotional roller coaster and for those of you who are on the same ride, here are 20 quotes that you need to hear:
1. “Nothing will ruin your 20s more than thinking you should have your life together already.” – Unknown
Thinking you have your life together in your 20s is setting yourself up for failure. Accept the fact that you will make mistakes and learn from them. No one is perfect, so go easy on yourself.
2. “There is nothing permanent except change.” – Hereaclitus
This might be the realest quote out there, and is one hundred percent applicable to your 20s. Your 20s is the decade of change. More than likely you will change jobs, friends, relationships, goals, and aspirations more than a few times, and learning to embrace these changes will save you a lot of worry. Change is something we just have to learn to accept and move on from.
3. “Nothing ever happens how you imagine it will.” – John Green
Managing my expectations is still something I’m learning to do. There have been times in my life when I have expected to get a promotion and it was given to someone else, and there have been times when I’ve gotten jobs I never thought I would be chosen for. Anything in life is possible, whether good or bad, so learn to manage expectations and keep your options open.
4. “‘Why the f*ck not me’ should be your motto” – Mindy Kaling
While managing expectations is important, it is also important to believe in yourself! I am a true believer that you can achieve anything if you set your mind to it, so your motto should absolutely be, “Why the f*ck not me?”
5. “It is far better to be alone than to be in bad company.” – George Washington
Preach it, George. This one can be hard to learn, especially at times when you feel lonely. I know I’m not the only one who has hung out with people or dated someone just for the sake of being social. These are desperate times, and they almost never turn out well, so it’s much better to do your own thing until the right person(s) come along.
6. “I crave space. It charges my batteries. It helps me breathe. Being around people can be so exhausting, because most of them love to take and barely know how to give. Except for a rare few.” – Katie Kacvinski
Surround yourself with people who lift you up, give you energy, and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. Your friends, significant other, and family members should never be exhausting to be around. Follow your energy and surround yourself with people who provide you with positive interactions.
7. “The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly walk away” – Alysia Harris
When it comes to dating and relationships there are always games, no matter how much we may hate them. It is often said that the person who cares the least is the one who carries the power and this can cause a lot of problems. You owe it to yourself to walk away from someone who does not realize your worth. You should never have to prove this to anyone.
8. “Give yourself permission to immediately walk away from anything that gives you bad vibes. There is no need to explain or make sense of it. Just trust what you feel.” – Sonia Chuquette
You are your number one priority- never forget that! If you are at a bar talking to a guy who gives you the creeps you have every right to walk away without an explanation. If you’re in an Uber and the driver is giving off bad vibes, don’t be afraid to ask him to pull over. Trust your instincts and take care of yourself because in the end you’re all you’ve got!
9. “Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.” – Carrie Bradshaw
This one is so important. It’s easy to rush into relationships when we are consumed with trying to find a life partner. Don’t forget to take the time to find yourself and fall in love with yourself first. Learn about your strengths and weaknesses, fears, passions, and goals and aspirations. Loving yourself first sets a foundation for a relationship free of insecurities and jealousy, two things that make it very difficult for a relationship to be successful.
Read more about my thoughts on loving yourself here!
10. “You attract the right things when you have a sense of who you are.” – Amy Poehler
Loving yourself instills a certain type of confidence that is attractive to others. Having a solid sense of who you are will attract like-minded people whether it is a friend, potential partner, or potential job, so be yourself and love yourself because others can sense that!
11. “Do not mind anything that anyone tells you about anyone else. Judge anyone and everything for yourself.” – Henry James
Don’t play into gossip or judge anyone based on here-say. Most of the time that kind of talk isn’t true anyways, but it’s important to form your own decisions based on facts and first-hand experiences. Otherwise, you look just as bad for believing gossip as the ones who started it in the first place.
12.”Surround yourself with people who are only going to lift you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey
They say you are the company you keep, so surround yourself with people who will inspire you to be better and do better. Your closest friends should challenge you, question you, and push you to achieve your goals and dreams. Keep those who do close to your heart!
13. “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation” -John Wooden
Society does this thing that places importance on money, status, and reputation. We are judged on the type of job we have, the kind of car we drive, and how many likes we receive on Instagram. Instead of asking ourselves what we want to do when we grow up, we should be asking ourselves who we want to be. Try not to compare yourself to others and focus more on your character than your reputation. People will admire you for it and you will have a greater sense of self because of it.
14. “The work you do while you procrastinate is probably the work you should be doing for the rest of your life.” – Jessica Hoche
My worst fear is ending up at a dead end job, which is why I started this blog as a creative outlet. I am so passionate about fashion, beauty, and writing and I get so excited about new topics to share with all of you! Pay attention to what fuels you and what keeps you up at night. Follow that energy, make a plan, and go for it!
15. “It’s never too late to be who you might have been.” – George Eliot
When I was in college I switched my major three times. It was so difficult for me to decide on a career path and I felt pressured to pick something because I only had four years to get a degree and start working. I settled on Communications because I had enough credits to graduate on time, and I always wish I would have taken the time to choose something I was more passionate about. But the truth is, it’s never too late. You have your whole life to learn and grow, so if you’ve always wanted to learn the Guitar, or learn to speak a new language, or become a doctor then get out there and do it!
16. “Don’t become something just because someone else wants you to or because it’s easy; you won’t be happy. You have to do what you really, really, really want to do, even if it scares the shit out of you.” -Kristen Wiig
This kind of goes hand and hand with the previous point because it makes me think of career choices. We are seasoned to graduate high school, apply for college, get a degree with a high paying job, and work for the rest of our lives. When did life get so boring and serious? Being young gives us the freedom to explore different options, so don’t be afraid to take the road less traveled. Just because you may choose something a little less traditional doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
17. “Remember no one can make you feel inferior with out your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Some people can be untrustworthy, manipulative, and straight up mean, but it is your job to treat them how to treat you. If you allow people to treat you like a doormat, that’s what they’re gonna do. Command respect in the way you carry yourself, and learn when and how to say no.
18. “To me, fearless is not the absence of fear. It’s not being completely unafraid. To me, fearless is having fears. Fearless is having doubts. Lots of them. To me, fearless is living in spite of those things that scare you to death.” – Taylor Swift
If you don’t want to do something, reflect on the reasons why. If the reason you don’t want to do it is out of fear, they you absolutely should. Within reason though. Don’t jump off a bridge if you’re afraid of heights. Maybe go rock climbing instead. All jokes aside, doing what you want to do even though you’re afraid is how you grow. This is how you learn as a person and make yourself better. So go say hi to the cute guy at the other end of the bar, and don’t be afraid to speak up in class. Whatever it is you’re afraid of, life will go on and it might even be a little less scary.
19 . “The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You don’t blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the President, You realize that you control your own destiny.” -Albert Ellis
Your 20s are all about taking on more and more responsibility, and being a true adult means accepting responsibility for your own actions. Forgot to pay a bill on time? Got a speeding ticket? Late for work? Don’t make excuses. Own up to your actions and don’t blame them on anyone but yourself.
20. “The useless days will add up to something. The shitty waitressing jobs. The hours writing in your journal. The long meandering walks. The hours reading poetry and story collections and novels and dead people’s diaries and wondering about sex and God and whether you should shave your underarms or not. These things are your beginning.” – Cheryl Strayed
I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. Don’t get discouraged if you had a bad day or if you aren’t where you thought you’d be five years ago. Nothing happens as you plan and there are many, many bumps in this road we call life. Take what you can from the sh*tty, slow, and boring experiences because they all add up to something. They made you who you are today.